Appreciate Yourself, Others
When you are infatuated with someone, you tend to idolize them and minimize yourself relative to them because you think they have something that you don’t. Consciously or subconsciously, you tend to subordinate to them. On the other hand, when you resent someone, you put them down, see only their down side and want to change them. The balanced, wise and mindful way is to learn to appreciate ourselves for who we are and others exactly as they are.