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I’ m dating an awesome woman I see a future with. However, there’s a hurdle: She doesn’t want to have sex until we’re com- mitted, but I don’t feel right about committing without knowing we have sexual chemistry. A previous rela- tionship ended because the sex was subpar, and I don’t want to go through that again. – Conflicted
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Mamas is a rambunctious 6-year-old girl who is everything you could
wish for in a dog. She is affectionate and gentle with people. She is playful and would love to go to the park or dog-safe beach with you. When you are not outside playing fetch, she will want to cuddle up and relax.
“Mamas is a sweet girl that loves the company
of others around her. She needs companionship and lots of love,” says a Hawaiian Humane Society team member.
Mamas is an obedient dog
who is looking for a loving
family to give her plenty of attention.
Mamas is considered a senior pet because she is over 6 years old, so her adoption fee is waived for adopters over 55 years old. Hawaiian Humane Society’s senior-for-senior special is offered year-round to give companionship and love to those
in their golden years. If you are interested in adopting Mamas, visit hawaiianhumane.org/adoptions to book an adoption
appointment.
If Mama’s found a home by the time you visit, don’t
worry! Hawaiian Humane Society has many other cats, dogs and small animals looking for homes. Visit hawaiianhumane.
org to see all available animals, programs and coronavirus updates.
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However, we differ psy- chologically per the physi- cal differences we do have; namely, how sex can leave a woman “with child” and a man “with a teaspoon less sperm.”
Where there are deep-seated desires, there’s often deception. Buss calls this “strategic interference,” describing sneaky tactics used to get the opposite sex to go against their evolu- tionary best interest. Men, for example, feign com- mitment to get sex, while women feign sexual interest to get commitment — either long-term or enough to en- joy an evening of free fine dining. However, we have a
be helpful. Buss finds that men will shift to a “long- term sexual strategy” when that’s what it takes to land a woman of especially high “mate value.” If she doesn’t seem worth the risk of wait- ing for, it’s probably break- up o’clock. No, sex isn’t everything in a relationship.
Men, for example, feign commitment to get sex, while women feign sexual interest to get commitment — either long-term or enough to enjoy an evening of free fine dining.
Sexual chemistry is pretty important. You don’t want to get all emotionally attached and then find that sexually, you go together like peanut butter and a repeating saw.
andrun...sexandshun— has the most “reproductive benefits,” increasing men’s chances of passing on their genes. Women benefit most from a commitment-centric “long-term sexual strategy” and look for signs a man is emotionally attached, mak- ing him more likely to stick around and provide for any, um, sex biscuits they might create.
defense against this: “neg- ative” emotions — like a woman’s fear of getting humptied and dumptied and a man’s fear that all a woman really wants to “ride like a pony” is his American Express black card.
However, if you like to have sex twice a day and your partner’s up for twice every never, it’s a little hard to meet in the middle — though the less libidinous partner might come up with some, uh, helpful ideas, such as: “Do we really have to have sex when I’ m con- scious?”
Men and women are alike in countless ways. (Both have two legs; men don’t randomly have six like an insect.)
As for what you should do, Buss’ research might
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These differences drive men’s and women’s conflict- ing “sexual strategies,” ex- plains evolutionary psychol- ogist David Buss. For men, a casual sex-centric “short- term sexual strategy” — hit
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